Kim Kizyma
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It’s ok to not feel ok all the time

The sad news that Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain took their own lives last week shocked people all over. The mental health conversation is so important right now, more than ever. It’s a shame it takes these celebrity suicides to start that conversation, but it is the direct result.

I hope that we as a community of people can stop the stigmatization of mental health discussion and be more open to it and allow transparency into the conversation as to let truths be told and feelings of inadequacy or unhappiness out to be diminished.  Keeping negative thoughts in one’s head bottled up becomes overwhelming. Even when your life seems so incredible on the outside, we never truly can know one’s internal struggle. Most often, until it’s too late.

Of course, getting rid of the stigma is easier said than done. But we can start working towards a greater resolve. We always can do better. We should always strive for better. 

In my heart I feel that everyone sort of understands their own psyche or mental health state but just like our bodies, the brain is a muscle and needs to be exercised to stay healthy. Therapy can work for some, meditation works for some, exercise works for some, just talking to friends or even random people through trusted and discreet hotlines works for some, prescriptions work for some. There are lots of  “solutions” but only one’s self can find the correct one for their situation.

I think the thing with mental health is that everyone deals with it but it’s basically just waiting to see who wants to actually admit their own progress or current state and who pushes it backwards and pretends everything is ok all the time. I often get sort of frustrated when someone asks “how are you,” cause it’s like...you don’t really care. It’s a phrase. But now I treat it as a “hello.” But really, next time someone asks, “how are you,” you should really answer. Not just say “good, you?” It sort of throws people off, which says something.

Anyways, I am glad to hear more discussion about mental health in the music I listen to and also on social media, mainly Twitter.

It’s ok to not feel ok. The days that we do not feel ok make the days that we DO feel ok, even better. I think this life is all a balance. And we just need to ultimately work to maintain our sanity and happiness however we can. That’s how I feel, at least.

I have bad days where I don’t feel like doing much of anything but those days are getting less and less frequent and I am so grateful. I have put a lot of work into my own mental health recently and cannot wait to see where I am at within a year and beyond. I’m not embarrassed to admit it anymore. I used to be. I am happy to be feeling in control of my life and everything that I get to do.

This is definitely a more personal post for me, but I respect vulnerability and hope you can, too.  I think this will continue until we all start talking about it.

kk